Who is a Single Mother by Choice? A single woman who makes the deliberate choice to start a family in which she will be her child’s (or children's) sole parent. Typically a career woman in her 30’s or 40’s who wants to have a child before it’s too late. Some of us use a doctor to undergo donor insemination (ICI/IUI/IVF), adopt in the US or abroad, or chooses a known donor using the "old fashioned way" or ICI at home. Single motherhood is ideally for the woman who feels she has much to give a ch …